One lesson Becky and I learned the hard way was the proper way to make decisions. Then we implemented a practice that worked far beyond our expectations. Never make a final decision on matters that affect both of you unless you both agree on it. Another way of putting this is: Be willing to admit the value of your spouse's counsel. Becky and I relied on this principle in all sorts of situations and it worked. When we disagreed about a decision, our commitment to this principle helped us to verbalize our feelings until we understood each other because we knew we couldn't go anywhere until we were in agreement.
Just a thought.