Thursday, November 6, 2025

The Pursuit of Loneliness

I love books with the words "The Pursuit of ..." in their titles. Samples include:

  • Rosen's The Pursuit of Liberty.
  • Tozer's The Pursuit of God.
  • Bridges' The Pursuit of Holiness.
  • Tarver's The Pursuit of Purpose.
  • Mitford's The Pursuit of Love.
  • Harris's The Pursuit of Home.

In his brilliant book The Pursuit of Loneliness, sociologist Philip Slater argues that our culture is forcing all of us into a state of loneliness. Americans, he says, seek competition instead of community, involvement instead of engagement. The result is a permanent state of isolation for many.

Am I lonely? After all, I live alone and have done so for 12 years. The answer is no. I have cured my loneliness with solitude. The solitary man finds pleasure in life, including exercise. He often becomes engaged not only in meaningful relationships but also in activities such as weight training or long distance running. I am that man. By God's grace I have discovered peace inside of pain. I see the miracle that each new day represents. I am no longer learning from books but from experience.

This is what aging has become for many of us. In what others call the twilight years, we are more alive than ever. Through engagement and exercise, we are reinvigorated with energy. That I experience all this as a single man does not detract in the least from the tiny flame still ablaze in my heart. 

That's about it.

  • Love Jesus.
  • Be you.
  • Be kind.

Everything else pretty much falls into place. 

P.S. Today's gym session:

Today's steps.