Ever traveled abroad? Then you know the feeling of being a foreigner on foreign soil. Anyone who's done this for the first time finds that traveling internationally makes an incredible impact upon them.
I remember quite vividly stepping on foreign soil for the first time and being in the midst of a language and culture not my own. It was the summer of 1978. Becky and I had been married only 2 years when we spent the summer in Germany with Greater Europe Mission. It was my joy to play the trumpet on an evangelistic brass octet that toured the country.
In those days, Americans were notorious for being terrible tourists. "Ugly Americans" we were called. I remember being very self-conscious about how well I was representing my home.
Americans often stand out when they travel abroad due to their loudness, poor tipping habits, and cultural preferences like air conditioning and ice in drinks. In Switzerland, where Becky and I lived from 1980-1983, Americans often displayed a casual attitude towards time and punctuality. Such behavior is often confusing to people from other cultures. To foreigners, American traits can range from obnoxious to amusing to endearing. One thing almost everyone agrees on is this: we come across at full volume. You hear Americans coming before you see them. We even chat more intimately with strangers than most Europeans do.
And then there are our superlatives. We marvel at everything and are prepared to gush over the most "amazing" beaches, restaurants, and sunsets. We can't get over how delicious meals are either. "This is the best __________ I've had in my entire life!" We're also linguistically spoiled. Over three-fourths of Americans speak only English fluently. Not only that, we take it for granted that English will be accommodated almost everywhere we travel.
Here's what Becky and I learned after living just a few months in Basel. Being loud doesn't mean rude. Neither does wanting space. Our cultures are just, well, different. As first we felt offended when our enthusiastic "Good morning!" wasn't reciprocated by strangers. On the other hand, the friendships we made with Swiss people became some of the most enduring of our lives.
To make close friends with the Swiss, consider joining local clubs or groups that align with your interests, be it a sports club or a local church. By actively attending and participating in die Baptistengemeinde Basel, Becky and I were able to create meaningful connections and build friendships with Swiss people easily.
Remember that Swiss social customs emphasize punctuality, politeness, and respect for personal space. If you are able to speak German (as we could), learn a few phrases in Swiss German that help you show respect and your willingness to integrate. Work hard at familiarizing yourself with the unwritten rules of social interactions. By embracing these aspects of Swiss life, expats can create lasting friendships and feel more at home in this beautiful and diverse country!











































