Here's a skill that someone my age learns and learns well. It's the power to say no. This is such an important life skill that I need to emphasize it. And get this: You do not necessarily have to apologize. "Sorry, but I can't" places an unintentional guilt on your conscience and you don't deserve that. It's often best to stick to a simple "no" when you've decided what you want.
Givers (like me) need to know their limits. You don't have to be a "good guy" all the time. I used to be a people pleaser to a fault. Then I realized how much easier it is to say no than trying to make everyone happy. At that point you just move on and don't worry about how you were going to accomplish what you were going to over-promise. Say it with me:
- Thanks but I can't.
- No thanks.
- Nah, I'll pass.
- I don't eat junk food. But I don't mind if you do.
It's important to be able to say no even to your loved ones. Set boundaries and stick to them. Saying no is not an act of selfishness. It's a commitment to self-respect. Each time you set a new boundary, you are protecting your energy for the priorities and goals that matter most in your life.
Have a wonderful day my friend!