Having been lifting now for 3 years, I have two general conclusions. I'd say to begin with that trying does work. Even a little effort in the gym can go a long ways. I tried to do my first unassisted pull up in February of 2022. I failed miserably. It wasn't until April 22, 2024 -- when this video was taken -- that I was able to do a single pull up without any helps.
Thus, it took me over 2 entire years to arrive at my goal, made possible in part by doing countless sets of band-assisted pull ups.
Currently I'm able to easily do a number of reps with proper form, as during today's workout.
The second thing I've learned that I wanted to pass on to you in this. Some things take a long time because they should take a long time. If you are of the mindset that you can join the gym and get massive then I'd say that this mentality would probably make you less likely to remain consistent in your training and maintain it. You don't become a guy who can easily read his Greek New Testament overnight. It takes years to learn that craft. Parents and spouses don't become great without years of growth and effort. Growing in Christ is a very gradual process. You get the point.
To summarize:
Trying works (eventually).
Good things require patience.
For something to grow, often something else has to die first. In order for the sun to rise, it first has to set. In the case of weight training, it's often our impatience that has to die before we begin to see genuine gains. Picture yourself as a diamond in the rough and God as a master jeweler at work shaping, cutting, filing, grinding, buffing, and polishing until every facet of our lives displays his handiwork. For that to happen, a lot of course material in the diamond has to be cut away first. The good news is that God is a gentle craftsman. He works slowly and deliberately. His strokes are small and precise. He is in no hurry.
Neither should we be.