"I don't have time!" What a lame excuse for not working out. Sure, you have a crazy schedule. Everyone does. But the fact is, you make time for things that are important to you. If your life isn't what you want it to be, it's your fault. At any moment you have the choice to let yourself off the hook or to ditch your excuses and do what it is you know you should be doing. Don't depend on others to motivate you. In case you haven't noticed, no one really cares but you. Sure, your friends and family will politely compliment you when you send them that gym picture, but when push comes to shove, it is you who has to put in the effort. The things that are tough in life -- whether getting into shape or making a marriage work -- require making a definite decision and not giving in to excuses. No, you can't control everything, but you also do not need to be a victim of your circumstances. Do you think it's easy or effortless? Do you think it's convenient? Not very likely. There is nothing magical about it. JUST DO IT.