If you're going through the pain of loss, it's okay to grieve. This isn't a time for "Get over it as soon as you can" advice. Embrace your grief and the steps to recovery. Eventually the wind subsides. The God who once seemed so far away will again seem radiant. Be sure to deal with your pain one little bit at a time. Grief is a natural, normal, and expected reaction to death. Eventually you will take steps to move from the old to the new identity. Ask God for help. Reach out your arms to him. Let others know you need them to hold you too.